“Grow Up!”, “You Stupid Child..” and “You’re Too Young To Understand” are common phrases dumped on the youngsters of today. Whilst they may be young, do not be fooled into thinking they don’t understand. In fact, the way you talk to your child while they are young is going to become their inner voice throughout childhood, perhaps longer. With that same voice and choice of words, that’s the way they’ll start treating themselves and their loved ones.
Now, I’m not saying that you should stand negotiating with your child over whether or not they should eat candy before supper, or the fact that they don’t feel like bathing today … A parent is the parent for a reason, they have final say because they have the child’s best interest at heart. However, a good leader, which I believe every parent has the potential to be, leads primarily by example and encouragement, not verbal threats and punishments. There are 2 ways to motivate someone:
Fear : Fear is a great motivator. It gives you no highway option or excuse. It is black and white, clear to follow and if you don’t adhere, there is a negative effect.
Hope : Hope is stronger than fear in the sense that hope leaves you feeling uplifted whilst overcoming obstacles, and when failure occurs, which it does, there is strength and encouragement to get up and do better!
Now is a good time to ask this question: What is NOT a child? A child is not a miniature you or your partner. A child is not a project or hobby, not even a job! So then, what is a child?
A child is a blessing! It is a human being placed under your care, nurture and guidance for a period of their life. It is the greatest opportunity for you as a human being to uplift the world around you, due to the fact that the children of today create the future, and they will be the ones to uplift or destroy life, including yours! Children are your opportunity for happiness; not from what you gain, but from watching them become THEM! The uniqueness of each child can never be reduced or compared, for each one is different and is a blessing in their own right. This, ladies and gentleman, is what children are.
Let me ask you something: Lets say you found a puppy lying in your driveway. What would you do with it? Send it away, chasing it with a stick? Kick it, scream at it and throw it into a corner? Perhaps even take it to the Vet to put down? NO WAY!!! You’re either going to take it in and nurture it to health, or find its owner. You will give it what it needs to the best of your ability.
Now, how much more with a child? Neglecting a child, discouraging them or straight out abuse: Does it seem logical, never mind right, to do that to something so precious?
Food for thought…